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Bondage…
I know, it looks like a scary word; it’s weird; it’s new, but its not all that strange. According to a 2005 survey done by Durex 36% of American couples use blindfolds, whips and bondage tools during sex. That’s 16% more than the rest of the world! So if you have had this fantasy and you’re worried that its too out there, worry no more. You have statistics on your side.
Bringing it up
Bringing up new things to try in the bedroom isn’t as hard as you think. If you feel weird just coming out and saying it, try playing a fantasy game where your partner tells you a simple fantasy of theirs, and then you tell them one of yours. You can also try using a visual example to explain for you, like porn. Lastly, you can just start to implement it in the bedroom. Once you guys are going ask your partner to hold your hands or blindfold you. There’s a good chance they won’t say no.
What is it?
When you get to the discussion portion of bondage, or just for your information, here is what it is. Bondage is the first letter of the acronym BDSM. Bondage refers to the act of restraining, tying or binding a consensual partner. For beginners, I suggest fuzzy handcuffs and a blindfold, but some more advanced people can and will use anything, chain, rope, zip ties. There is even professional bondage art, Shibari is an extremely popular version of professional bondage.
Why?
Why do people practice bondage? Each person you ask who is involved in BDSM will tell you something different as to why, but the most simple answer will always be, “because I like it”. That’s all that matters right? If you like it or if you think you will like it, why not try it?
Tips for practice:
Once you have talked to your partner and you want to try some things out, here are some tips for introducing it to the bedroom safely.
- Use a safe word!
- Never leave a bound person alone, anything can happen in a short period of time.
- Attempt to avoid positions that cause positional asphyxia. This means the position you have placed them in makes it difficult for them to breathe properly.
- If you are involved in a show, make sure that the person can move around about once an hour to prevent circulation problems.
- Unless you are highly skilled, make sure that the person can actually escape quickly in an emergency
- If you are a beginner I suggest staying away from things such as gags and masks that impair breathing.
- If you can get a hold of them, EMT cutting scissors work well for removing bondage tape or rope quickly without harming someones skin.
- If you are using padlocks or any type of locking mechanisms, if they all have the same key, it will be much easier for someone to get out quickly.
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Julia Parsons is an Analyst for Couch Rider Report. Follow her on Facebook and Follow/Like us on Facebook or twitter.